Our Relationships

As I look at all that is meaningful in my life, I have to say it’s my relationships from family to acquaintances. My immediate family is my closest and I’m fortunate to say I have one. My husband and children, their spouses and my grandchildren are my joy and my rock in times of trouble and stress.

My brother and sister are deep roots to my past and we continue to see each other when we can. I can’t tell you how fortunate I am to have them in my life, each of us feels blessed because of our parents and their loyalty to us and now we are extending this to each other. My sister and brother in laws are caring and loyal friends, each person plays a role in our family dynamics that are unique and fun, my nieces and nephews have rolled along with our corky family get togethers. Our cousins are still in touch, through phone or social media, it’s a blessing and  confirmation that our family still chooses to get together no matter the distance that separates us, we have history.

My friends and past co workers -I treasure, each one I found I loved in a special way, many of them I don’t see anymore (thank God for social media!) but still hold that place in my heart and mind and I will never forget them and what they meant to me.

Our relationships with each other can either go in many directions but I will speak on two. Either we let go of some relationships that aren’t working (no matter how hard we try or want to give up on) or we hold on to the one’s that enhance our lives. Some relationships require much more work and are way harder to deal with, depending on who they are or what they mean your decision to continue on with them may be a tough one. If a person is keeping you awake at  night with their bad behavior, there needs to be a conversation or let it go. If someone hurt you instead of telling everyone about it, (believe me, I have been there) go have a loving chat with that person, if it doesn’t work out and they won’t listen or respond in a positive way at least you did your best in trying to resolve it. Sometimes you might be surprised, that person may come around or you may realize you over stepped.

Psalm 19:12 

But who can discern their own errors?

    Forgive my hidden faults.

The goal is to get you thinking about your relationships, how do you choose them? 

Are there family members that just crawl under your skin?

Matthew 6:14-15 

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Do you consider why you do or don’t get along with someone or a group of people?

Do you keep choosing people that aren’t right for you in the end? 

Is there something inside of you that drives you towards happy or hurtful people? 

Ecclesiastes 8:9  

All this I saw, as I applied my mind to everything done under the sun. There is a time when a man lords it over others to his own hurt.

Is there something or someone you are trying to change and it’s not working?

Maybe it’s time to look at your past choices and look at your internal voice, sometimes when we have bad thoughts about someone is it that we may see we don’t like in ourselves that needs to be addressed? 

When we break it all down at the end of the day, it’s either who hurt you or who made you happy. But life is more than that, it’s building, forgiving and moving on from what makes us angry or feel burdened by. It’s our relationships that help us grow, that directs our path and gives us a heart for others even when they hurt us. We are human and make mistakes, so forgive as Jesus forgives you.



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Step Out & Try

Looking back over the years that I worked and volunteered I found there to be rules and structure to the way the organization was run. Now if you are like me, (a creative at heart) 

You like to be different than others but you still follow the crowds, continue with tradition and rituals that certain places practice, because that’s what is required, you just go along and follow the crowd and don’t rock the boat. But inside you want to make changes!

So through the years have you ever worked alongside someone that just wouldn’t fit in the mold? The person was right in their standing, ethically and morally had great ideas that you even agreed with but because they didn’t fit into the crowd, said something that was correct but was frowned upon and was branded an outcast. That’s a creative and outside the box thinker, pushed back by peers but ultimately that creative thinker is learning and growing in those situations to use in the future.

Often times that independent, creative thinker goes off and starts their own business or group that inspires others to want to learn and follow them or create something that is unique so that others can feel that there isn’t anything wrong with different ideas. That God gives us unique inspiration and guidance so that we don’t feel like our ideas or thoughts are a failure but reminds us to acknowledge how creatively made we all are.

So what I am driving at are two things for you today,

#1 When you feel like an outcast, no matter where it is, or what it is, ride it out- 

you will need this someday and it may really be tough now and you might be going through difficulty but there is an end and a lesson and God has a plan in it for you.

#2 If your heart and gut tell you to accomplish something, start it! 

     Don’t talk about it and think about it and contemplate over it, take a baby step out and start      walking. Take 20 minutes write it in your notes on your iphone, write a plan down, do it in steps but easy ones and then give it over to God, because through Him great things can be done.He is our inspiration.

Our great example  is Jesus, If God didn’t send His only Son into the world and turn it upside down, creating havoc over religious laws, stir hearts, heal sick and broken people and just when things got really amazing and thousands upon thousands were following Him, He was condemned by those religious leaders, but stood strong against their plans, yet relinquished His rights , put to death and was resurrected from the dead- 

What Jesus did for us and taught us we are set free from strict religious laws and rules-to follow Him and to love others, just as He loves us. 

Romans 8:3-4 For what the law was powerless to do because it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh to be a sin offering. And so he condemned sin in the flesh,  in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fully met in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

Jesus taught us not only to step out and follow Him but also to know that He brings light and newness to a dark world, we no longer need to be afraid— be brave, step out even if you feel you will be ridiculed or resented, at least you will not have regrets for not trying and that’s harder to live with as you look back.

Remember you are completely, beautifully made in your uniqueness.

Praising Him…….Nancy

How God Grows Us

Every year I tend to a garden that sits way back from our house. There are different varieties of plants and flowers and every year I am amazed at what comes up, I completely forget!

Just this week I went back and realized that my fig tree which I thought was completely dead has been resurrected and is growing need branches at the bottom. It just helps me realize that what I thought was gone and dead has been given another chance to grow.

That’s what happens with us doesn’t it?

Just when we think things aren’t going the way we hoped God has another plan, He makes part of us die, so that new growth can emerge and we can be better in our newness and service.

I thank God for the newness in me, it helps me to grow and to see where I was, what had to change and what can still be ahead, God will always surprise, we don’t have to know it all, we just stay faithful for growth and understanding, praying for guidance in doing His will as He directs us in His mysterious ways.